She's just not that in to you. . .

12:11 am. Sunday Fun-Day/Monday (morning?) Bacchus.

during the fall of '04, we all witnessed the run-away success of Greg Bernhardt's self-help book He's Just Not That Into You. for those of you who aren't avid Sex and the City watchers, the book was preconceived when Greg was a guest writer for one of the Berger episodes when Berger so adeptly gives Miranda the advice, whilst the girls are pining over her first date with some guy, that this guy is just not into her, and she should move on: "if a guy's into ya, he's coming upstairs, he's booking the next date. there are no mixed messages."

in his book, Greg suggests a few simple rules to live by, words of wisdom. . . guidelines, if you will.

for example, he's just not that into you if. . .

he's not contacting you.
he's not asking you out.
you've been dating him for years and he insists he just doesn't want to get married to anyone.
he's married. (okay, well this is obvious, but some women still can't quite wrap their minds around the idea).

you get the idea. common sense.

so, instead, we decided to shift gears and play the game ourselves, while decoding body language to try and figure out which one of two girls a guy in a bar was going to hook up with, dependent solely upon which one was the most into him.

the girl who wasn't into him: was in the middle of a three person conversation. literally. she was scrunching, folding herself in half almost (seemingly trying to escape into the couch cushion) instead of showing any sort of interest.

the girl who was into him: after he went to the bathroom, he went to the bar. she joined him, put her arm around him (and possibly other flirtatious behavior i care not to remember).

i guess it works both ways.
no mixed messages from either camp. . .

sorry, carrie.


xoxox,

kellieannie